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# First, the relevant full text of Elder Packer's remarks will be provided. | # First, the relevant full text of Elder Packer's remarks will be provided. | ||
− | # Next, some background information will be provided. Some non-members may not understand the context of the experience described by Elder Packer (missionary companions on an LDS full-time mission), and so | + | # Next, some background information will be provided. Some non-members may not understand the context of the experience described by Elder Packer (missionary companions on an LDS full-time mission), and so this will be explained. |
− | + | # Having established the proper background to fully understand Elder Packer's instruction, we will then analysze the story and advice he gives. We will see that it does not match, in any respects, the negative spin given it by the critics. | |
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− | # Having established the proper background to fully understand Elder Packer's instruction, we will then analysze the story and advice he gives. We will see that it does not match, in any respects, the | ||
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− | negative spin given it by the critics. | ||
# Finally, some broader issues which this charge raises will be considered. | # Finally, some broader issues which this charge raises will be considered. | ||
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:"But I floored him," he said. | :"But I floored him," he said. | ||
:After learning a little more, my response was "Well, thanks. Somebody had to do it, and it wouldn't be well for a General Authority to solve the problem that way" | :After learning a little more, my response was "Well, thanks. Somebody had to do it, and it wouldn't be well for a General Authority to solve the problem that way" | ||
− | I am not recommending that course to you, but I am not omitting it. You must protect yourself. | + | :I am not recommending that course to you, but I am not omitting it. You must protect yourself. |
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===Missionary companions=== | ===Missionary companions=== | ||
− | Males in the Church serve full-time missions for two years. During this time, they are expected to dedicate themselves to full-time service of the Lord, His Kingdom, and people in and out of the Church. | + | Males in the Church serve full-time missions for two years. During this time, they are expected to dedicate themselves to full-time service of the Lord, His Kingdom, and people in and out of the Church. LDS missionaries are forbidden from dating or engaging in any romantic activities during this period of time. Furthermore, each missionary is assigned a "companion"--this is another missionary with whom the young man lives and works. |
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− | LDS missionaries are forbidden from dating or engaging in any romantic activities during this period of time. Furthermore, each missionary is assigned a "companion"--this is another missionary with whom the | ||
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− | young man lives and works. | ||
− | Missionaries are ''forbiddien'' to go anywhere without their companion. Companions live in the same apartment, sleep in the same room, and go everywhere together. When out of the apartment, missionaries | + | Missionaries are ''forbiddien'' to go anywhere without their companion. Companions live in the same apartment, sleep in the same room, and go everywhere together. When out of the apartment, missionaries are taught that they are never to be alone or unaccompanied by their companion (save for trips to the bathroom and the like). Keeping missionaries together in this way serves at least two purposes: |
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− | are taught that they are never to be alone or unaccompanied by their companion (save for trips to the bathroom and the like). Keeping missionaries together in this way serves at least two purposes: | ||
# Missionaries are protected from temptation, and it is hoped that they will also avoid behavior which might reflect poorly upon their mission and the Church | # Missionaries are protected from temptation, and it is hoped that they will also avoid behavior which might reflect poorly upon their mission and the Church | ||
− | # Perhaps more importantly, missionaries are protected against false accusations. No LDS missionary will ever be alone, and so there will always be another witness to his acts or behavior. Thus, if a | + | # Perhaps more importantly, missionaries are protected against false accusations. No LDS missionary will ever be alone, and so there will always be another witness to his acts or behavior. Thus, if a missionary were (for example) falsely charged by a malicious witness with a crime, the missionary would have both his own and his companion's testimony regarding his innocence. |
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− | missionary were (for example) falsely charged by a malicious witness with a crime, the missionary would have both his own and his companion's testimony regarding his innocence. | ||
A missionary who intentionally leaves his companion may be in serious trouble, and could be sent home from his mission. | A missionary who intentionally leaves his companion may be in serious trouble, and could be sent home from his mission. | ||
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===Missionary covenants=== | ===Missionary covenants=== | ||
− | All members of the Church are expected to observe the law of chastity. This means that no sexual activity outside of marriage is permitted. Furthermore, missionaries attend the LDS temple prior to going on | + | All members of the Church are expected to observe the law of chastity. This means that no sexual activity outside of marriage is permitted. Furthermore, missionaries attend the LDS temple prior to going on their missions, where they reaffirm this commitment. As noted above, missionaries further promise to not even engage in dating or other romantic activity while in full-time Church service. |
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− | their missions, where they reaffirm this commitment. As noted above, missionaries further promise to not even engage in dating or other romantic activity while in full-time Church service. | ||
==#3: Examining the story== | ==#3: Examining the story== | ||
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We are now able to examine the story told by Elder Packer. | We are now able to examine the story told by Elder Packer. | ||
− | * The story is ''not'' about LDS people going out and beating up on gay people. Elder Packer is also clear that he does not "recommend" the physical attack which the missionary launched on his companion--it | + | * The story is ''not'' about LDS people going out and beating up on gay people. Elder Packer is also clear that he does not "recommend" the physical attack which the missionary launched on his companion--it is not an ideal response. But, he does not "omit it" if necessary to "protect yourself." Thus, it is clear that the missionary did what he did to ''defend'' himself against a sexual advance. This was not a matter of the companion saying, "By the way, I'm gay, I hope you can love and accept me anyway." He was attempting to coerce his companion into a homosexual act, and he protected himself. |
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− | is not an ideal response. But, he does not "omit it" if necessary to "protect yourself." Thus, it is clear that the missionary did what he did to ''defend'' himself against a sexual advance. This was not | ||
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− | a matter of the companion saying, "By the way, I'm gay, I hope you can love and accept me anyway." He was attempting to coerce his companion into a homosexual act, and he protected himself. | ||
*[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_harassment Sexual harassment] of any sort is completely unacceptable. The United Nations defines sexual harrasment against women as: | *[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_harassment Sexual harassment] of any sort is completely unacceptable. The United Nations defines sexual harrasment against women as: | ||
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::unwanted conduct of a sexual nature, or other conduct based on sex affecting the dignity of women and men at work. This includes unwelcome physical, verbal or nonverbal conduct....{{eu.1}} | ::unwanted conduct of a sexual nature, or other conduct based on sex affecting the dignity of women and men at work. This includes unwelcome physical, verbal or nonverbal conduct....{{eu.1}} | ||
− | There is absolutely no context in LDS mission life where ''any'' sort of romantic attachment or engagement would be appropriate--with a companion or someone else, of the same gender or someone else. Thus, | + | There is absolutely no context in LDS mission life where ''any'' sort of romantic attachment or engagement would be appropriate--with a companion or someone else, of the same gender or someone else. Thus, ''any'' sexual advance is unwelcome and utterly inappropriate. By definition, such behavior must be sexual harassment. |
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− | ''any'' sexual advance is unwelcome and utterly inappropriate. By definition, such behavior must be sexual harassment. | ||
This is made worse when the offender is a companion, someone who has promised to protect and look out for the spiritual and physical well-being of the companion. | This is made worse when the offender is a companion, someone who has promised to protect and look out for the spiritual and physical well-being of the companion. | ||
− | * Missionaries are expected to be together at all times. The work and live together. They can never be apart. An even slightly aggressive invitation to homosexual sex would be an extremely intimidating | + | * Missionaries are expected to be together at all times. The work and live together. They can never be apart. An even slightly aggressive invitation to homosexual sex would be an extremely intimidating situation. (This ignores the fact that there could have been an element of attempted force or coercion in the story--we are not told, though this is suggested when Elder Packer says that he does not omit the option of physical violence if necessary to protect oneself.) |
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− | situation. (This ignores the fact that there could have been an element of attempted force or coercion in the story--we are not told, though this is suggested when Elder Packer says that he does not omit | ||
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− | the option of physical violence if necessary to protect oneself.) | ||
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− | + | * Furthermore, both missionaries would have known that they had both promised not to engage in ''any'' romantic activity with ''anyone'', much less a homosexual liason. The companion who propositioned the missionary who told the account to Elder Packer would have known this. | |
− | faithfulness to Church doctrine and mission rules, would have been incredibly shocking, and even terrifying. If the Elder forces him into acts, who will believe him? To whom can he go for help? (We see, in the story, how difficult it was for him even to describe the experience to Elder Packer, who had to spend considerable time before he would tell the story.) | + | * Elder Packer was speaking in the 1970s; during this time period few young Mormons would have had much exposure to even the ''idea'' of homosexuality. The missionary in question could well have been entirely naive about such things, and not even known that they were done. To be suddenly confronted by encouragement to act in such a way, by someone who was supposed to be a second witness of his own faithfulness to Church doctrine and mission rules, would have been incredibly shocking, and even terrifying. If the Elder forces him into acts, who will believe him? To whom can he go for help? (We see, in the story, how difficult it was for him even to describe the experience to Elder Packer, who had to spend considerable time before he would tell the story.) |
In short, it is absurd to characterize Elder Packer's story as advocacy of "gay beating" or violence against homosexuals simply because of their desires or inclinations, or their decision to have consensual sex with others. Instead, it is a sad but realistic admission that at times even violence may be necessary to protect chastity. | In short, it is absurd to characterize Elder Packer's story as advocacy of "gay beating" or violence against homosexuals simply because of their desires or inclinations, or their decision to have consensual sex with others. Instead, it is a sad but realistic admission that at times even violence may be necessary to protect chastity. | ||
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===Sexual harassment is unacceptable== | ===Sexual harassment is unacceptable== | ||
− | The bias against men in the critics' version of this story is disappointing. The matter is perhaps easier to understand if we change the roles a bit. How would we react if an LDS young woman was on a | + | The bias against men in the critics' version of this story is disappointing. The matter is perhaps easier to understand if we change the roles a bit. How would we react if an LDS young woman was on a mission, and told that she must spend every minute of the day with an LDS man? They must travel together, sleep in the same room, live together in what are generally cramped quarters. Now, let us imagine that the man propositions the young woman--would we think her out of line if she struck him? |
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− | mission, and told that she must spend every minute of the day with an LDS man? They must travel together, sleep in the same room, live together in what are generally cramped quarters. Now, let us imagine | ||
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− | that the man propositions the young woman--would we think her out of line if she struck him? | ||
Sexual harassment is unacceptable, regardless of whether men or women are the target. It does not matter if the harasser is homosexual or heterosexual--such behavior is everywhere and always wrong. | Sexual harassment is unacceptable, regardless of whether men or women are the target. It does not matter if the harasser is homosexual or heterosexual--such behavior is everywhere and always wrong. | ||
− | Anyone who has experienced sexual harassment can attest that it is an extremely frightening and oppressive experience. It is understandable that faced with such a situation--especially one which the | + | Anyone who has experienced sexual harassment can attest that it is an extremely frightening and oppressive experience. It is understandable that faced with such a situation--especially one which the missionary probably have never dreamed he would encounter from another male, much less his missionary companion--that the reaction would be terror and a panicked decision to do whatever it took to make sure nothing else happened. |
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− | missionary probably have never dreamed he would encounter from another male, much less his missionary companion--that the reaction would be terror and a panicked decision to do whatever it took to make sure | ||
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− | nothing else happened. | ||
No critic would dare say anything if an LDS ''sister'' missionary defended herself against the sexual suggestions, advances, or aggression of a male LDS missionary, because such a charge's bigotry against the victim is too blatant. But, as soon as the victim is a male and the aggressor a homosexual, suddenly the aggressor becomes the victim. This double standard would not exist if the gender roles were altered. This suggests that the critics are not trying to look at the situation fairly, but are simply trying to score points against the Church. | No critic would dare say anything if an LDS ''sister'' missionary defended herself against the sexual suggestions, advances, or aggression of a male LDS missionary, because such a charge's bigotry against the victim is too blatant. But, as soon as the victim is a male and the aggressor a homosexual, suddenly the aggressor becomes the victim. This double standard would not exist if the gender roles were altered. This suggests that the critics are not trying to look at the situation fairly, but are simply trying to score points against the Church. | ||
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===Where's the evidence?=== | ===Where's the evidence?=== | ||
− | A final question is worth asking--if this talk is really (as the critics claim) an incitement to violence against homosexuals by missionaries and LDS members in general, where is the evidence that this | + | A final question is worth asking--if this talk is really (as the critics claim) an incitement to violence against homosexuals by missionaries and LDS members in general, where is the evidence that this occurs? Are Mormon missionaries well-known for wandering around beating up any homosexual they encounter? Do LDS scout troops pick fights in gay bars? Are more devout Mormons--who would be more inclined to take prophetic counsel to heart and act on it--particularly conspicuous or known for violence in general, or violence against homosexuals in particular? The idea is absurd. Mormons have clearly not drawn the lessons from Elder Packer's talk that the critics insist are there--and that is because to any competent reader, the lesson is entirely different. |
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− | occurs? Are Mormon missionaries well-known for wandering around beating up any homosexual they encounter? Do LDS scout troops pick fights in gay bars? Are more devout Mormons--who would be more inclined | ||
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− | to take prophetic counsel to heart and act on it--particularly conspicuous or known for violence in general, or violence against homosexuals in particular? The idea is absurd. Mormons have clearly not | ||
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− | drawn the lessons from Elder Packer's talk that the critics insist are there--and that is because to any competent reader, the lesson is entirely different. | ||
=={{Conclusion label}}== | =={{Conclusion label}}== | ||
− | The Church does not teach that violence is the best response to problems. However, everyone is entitled to protect themselves (or others)_against sexual harassment or sexual assault by any means | + | The Church does not teach that violence is the best response to problems. However, everyone is entitled to protect themselves (or others)_against sexual harassment or sexual assault by any means necessary--including violence. This applies to all: men and women, gay and straight. As wikipedia notes, often the ''victim'' is blamed for the ''harasser's'' acts: |
− | + | :Retaliation and backlash against a victim are very common, particularly a complainant. Victims who speak out against sexual harassment are often labeled troublemakers who are on their own power trips, or who are looking for attention. Similar to cases of rape or sexual assault, the victim often becomes the accused, with their appearance, private life, and character likely to fall under intrusive scrutiny and attack.[17] They risk hostility and isolation from colleagues, supervisors, teachers, fellow students, and even friends. They may become the targets of mobbing or relational aggression.... | |
− | + | In this case, it is Elder Packer and ''all'' Mormons who come in for criticism and attack when sexual harassment is declared unacceptable. | |
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=={{Endnotes label}}== | =={{Endnotes label}}== | ||
#{{note|un.1}} United Nations [http://www1.umn.edu/humanrts/gencomm/generl19.htm General Recommendation 19] to the Convention on the [http://www1.umn.edu/humanrts/instree/e1cedaw.htm Elimination of all Forms of Discrimination Against Women]; cited at "[http://www1.umn.edu/humanrts/svaw/harassment/explore/1whatis.htm What Is Sexual Harassment?"] (accessed 10 March 2012) | #{{note|un.1}} United Nations [http://www1.umn.edu/humanrts/gencomm/generl19.htm General Recommendation 19] to the Convention on the [http://www1.umn.edu/humanrts/instree/e1cedaw.htm Elimination of all Forms of Discrimination Against Women]; cited at "[http://www1.umn.edu/humanrts/svaw/harassment/explore/1whatis.htm What Is Sexual Harassment?"] (accessed 10 March 2012) | ||
#{{note|eu.1}} As cited at "[http://www1.umn.edu/humanrts/svaw/harassment/explore/1whatis.htm What Is Sexual Harassment?"] (accessed 10 March 2012) | #{{note|eu.1}} As cited at "[http://www1.umn.edu/humanrts/svaw/harassment/explore/1whatis.htm What Is Sexual Harassment?"] (accessed 10 March 2012) |
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Critics claim that Elder Boyd K. Packer's talk "To Young Men Only" encourages "gay bashing" or physical assaults on gay people.
To see citations to the critical sources for these claims, [[../CriticalSources|click here]]
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Critics who make this claim are either ignorant of the contents of then-Elder Packer's talk, or are deliberately misrepresenting it for polemical gain.
This article will do four things:
Elder Packer said:
Males in the Church serve full-time missions for two years. During this time, they are expected to dedicate themselves to full-time service of the Lord, His Kingdom, and people in and out of the Church. LDS missionaries are forbidden from dating or engaging in any romantic activities during this period of time. Furthermore, each missionary is assigned a "companion"--this is another missionary with whom the young man lives and works.
Missionaries are forbiddien to go anywhere without their companion. Companions live in the same apartment, sleep in the same room, and go everywhere together. When out of the apartment, missionaries are taught that they are never to be alone or unaccompanied by their companion (save for trips to the bathroom and the like). Keeping missionaries together in this way serves at least two purposes:
A missionary who intentionally leaves his companion may be in serious trouble, and could be sent home from his mission.
All members of the Church are expected to observe the law of chastity. This means that no sexual activity outside of marriage is permitted. Furthermore, missionaries attend the LDS temple prior to going on their missions, where they reaffirm this commitment. As noted above, missionaries further promise to not even engage in dating or other romantic activity while in full-time Church service.
We are now able to examine the story told by Elder Packer.
The European Union notes that harassment is:
There is absolutely no context in LDS mission life where any sort of romantic attachment or engagement would be appropriate--with a companion or someone else, of the same gender or someone else. Thus, any sexual advance is unwelcome and utterly inappropriate. By definition, such behavior must be sexual harassment.
This is made worse when the offender is a companion, someone who has promised to protect and look out for the spiritual and physical well-being of the companion.
In short, it is absurd to characterize Elder Packer's story as advocacy of "gay beating" or violence against homosexuals simply because of their desires or inclinations, or their decision to have consensual sex with others. Instead, it is a sad but realistic admission that at times even violence may be necessary to protect chastity.
The bias against men in the critics' version of this story is disappointing. The matter is perhaps easier to understand if we change the roles a bit. How would we react if an LDS young woman was on a mission, and told that she must spend every minute of the day with an LDS man? They must travel together, sleep in the same room, live together in what are generally cramped quarters. Now, let us imagine that the man propositions the young woman--would we think her out of line if she struck him?
Sexual harassment is unacceptable, regardless of whether men or women are the target. It does not matter if the harasser is homosexual or heterosexual--such behavior is everywhere and always wrong.
Anyone who has experienced sexual harassment can attest that it is an extremely frightening and oppressive experience. It is understandable that faced with such a situation--especially one which the missionary probably have never dreamed he would encounter from another male, much less his missionary companion--that the reaction would be terror and a panicked decision to do whatever it took to make sure nothing else happened.
No critic would dare say anything if an LDS sister missionary defended herself against the sexual suggestions, advances, or aggression of a male LDS missionary, because such a charge's bigotry against the victim is too blatant. But, as soon as the victim is a male and the aggressor a homosexual, suddenly the aggressor becomes the victim. This double standard would not exist if the gender roles were altered. This suggests that the critics are not trying to look at the situation fairly, but are simply trying to score points against the Church.
A final question is worth asking--if this talk is really (as the critics claim) an incitement to violence against homosexuals by missionaries and LDS members in general, where is the evidence that this occurs? Are Mormon missionaries well-known for wandering around beating up any homosexual they encounter? Do LDS scout troops pick fights in gay bars? Are more devout Mormons--who would be more inclined to take prophetic counsel to heart and act on it--particularly conspicuous or known for violence in general, or violence against homosexuals in particular? The idea is absurd. Mormons have clearly not drawn the lessons from Elder Packer's talk that the critics insist are there--and that is because to any competent reader, the lesson is entirely different.
==== The Church does not teach that violence is the best response to problems. However, everyone is entitled to protect themselves (or others)_against sexual harassment or sexual assault by any means necessary--including violence. This applies to all: men and women, gay and straight. As wikipedia notes, often the victim is blamed for the harasser's acts:
In this case, it is Elder Packer and all Mormons who come in for criticism and attack when sexual harassment is declared unacceptable.
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